If you aren’t in a healthy relationship, and decide to stay in the relationship, safety planning is crucial. It is also important to know what qualities a healthy partner should have that way you have an idea of what to look for in the future. If you are looking for a relationship or are already in one, make sure you and your partner agree on what makes a relationship healthy. We aren’t talking about perfection, every relationship has argument and disagreements, this is normal. How you choose to deal with your disagreements is what really counts. Both people should work hard to communicate effectively and treat each other with respect. You and your partner should have equal say and should never be afraid to express feelings. It’s not just about speaking up for yourself, you should also listen and seriously consider what your partner says. If you think you are in an unhealthy or abusive relationship see our safety tips and contact The Shelter to speak with an advocate about building a safety plan for you, 800-931-7233.


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What should I look for in a healthy partner?


  • Someone who will treat you with respect.
  • Doesn’t make fun of things you like or want to do.
  • Never puts you down.
  • Doesn’t get angry if you spend time with your friends and family.
  • Listens to your ideas and compromises sometimes.
  • Isn’t excessively negative.
  • Shares some of your interests such as; movies, sports, reading, etc.
  • Isn’t afraid to share their thoughts and feelings.
  • Is comfortable around your friends and family.
  • Is proud of your accomplishments and successes.
  • Respects your boundaries and does not abuse technology.
  • Doesn’t require you to “check in”.
  • Someone who is caring and honest.
  • Doesn’t pressure you to do things that you don’t want to do.
  • Doesn’t constantly accuse you of cheating or being unfaithful.
  • Encourages you to do well in school or at work.
  • Doesn’t threaten you or make you feel scared.
  • Understands the importance of healthy relationships.

The National Domestic Violence Hotline. (2016). Safety Planning. Retrieved from: http://www.loveisrespect.org/for-yourself/safety-planning/